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Things Grooms Wish They Knew
Hey Dazzlers! I am back with another dazzling blog post. This time I want to include the Grooms and give them some advice. It does take two to get married so why not? June is a popular month for weddings and there’s a lot going on in Summer! Summer is the busiest season for weddings. For some reason, most humans seem to all want to gather around this time to attend functions, vacations, parties, and more! I personally prefer Spring and I’ve seen a trend in Fall being a popular season, but Summer still takes the win for most. Let’s dive into it! Here are some things Grooms should know ahead of time prior to the big day!
It’s Your Day Also
I know we hear the saying all the time, “happy wife, happy life”, and I’m not going to argue about that but also remember that it takes two in a marriage. Yes, the Bride is always going to be the shining star, and it is her big day, but you play a big role as well. Take time to implement some things that you would like on your wedding day. Attend and go to the cake tastings, food tastings, and more! Be involved and vocal. I know grooms get the bad rep of not having or wanting to display any input, but it doesn’t hurt to do so.
Planning Ahead is Important
Planning ahead may save you a major headache. If you can, it doesn’t hurt to write out your vows beforehand. If you are good at doing things on the spot, then please disregard. If you need advice on what to write or how to write your vows, then research is necessary. I say write what is on your heart, and come from a place of vulnerability. Profess your love and commitment to show that you are serious about making the love last for a lifetime. Vows do not have to be perfect. You can also put your own spin on it, and make it comical if you would like. Customize your vows to fit your personality. Think about it, your guests will mainly be family and friends. They know you best, and I’m sure they know when you’re faking it. So plan ahead if needed, and be genuine about everything pertaining to your big day! If you have anything that you want implemented in the wedding, then please plan ahead. Last minute things do not work out for the greater good. Make sure you also attend, and be present physically, and mentally during the rehearsals. Don’t just go with the flow, but be an active participant.
Choose Your Best Man Wisely
Have you seen the movie “The Best Man?” Please tell me you have…If you haven’t your homework involves watching that movie! This is a prime example of why you should choose your Best Man wisely. Harper (one of the main characters in the movie) was a good guy (in my opinion), but I think he just made several poor decisions that affected the entire wedding party! You want to make sure your Best Man is supportive of your marriage, reliable, and of course someone that you at least consider a friend. I’ve seen a lot of people elect family or a close friend to be their Best Man. If you are trying to come up with a way of asking someone to be your Best Man then take a look at my previous blog post from March (2024) titled, “You’re Engaged So What’s Next.” If all else fails, you can always just simply ask the questions without all the extras. I’m sure they will be honored to say “Yes!”
Wedding Vows Before Bros
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again to show how important it is, more guests mean more money. If you’re on a strict budget, then having a lesser crowd may be needed. Whether you want an intimate or larger than life wedding, be aware that your budget will go up with the guest list because of the food and more. All of your friends may not be able to attend the wedding. Even some family members may not be able to attend. According to https://www.wedgewoodweddings.com/ they stated the following in their post, “Typically, a guestlist of 75 to 150 people is considered an "average" wedding size. However, average guest counts fluctuate too. Did you know that about ten more guests are invited to weddings this year than last year? That brings the national average to just over 100 wedding guests.” Sad to say this, but all your buddies/bros/friends may not be in attendance depending on the budget. If all else fails, you can always have some kind of recording for those that can’t attend. Being creative goes a long way.
Arrive on Time
Wearing a watch on your wedding day isn’t a bad idea! Be aware of the time, and make sure you are not late. That’s added stress for everyone, and it is not needed. Plan ahead, and make sure to pack everything you need before the big day. Do not forget anything important. According to SHEfinds.com, Grooms often forget things before the wedding day, such as:
The bride's gift: Grooms can write a note and get a gift for the bride
Finalizing speeches: Grooms can forget to confirm the final details with the DJ or MC
Razor burn: Grooms can forget to shave the day before or the morning of the wedding
Ring bearer plans: Grooms can forget to iron out plans with the ring bearer
Accessories like cufflinks or socks: Grooms can forget these
According to The Dazzling Wedding Officiant (that would be me of course) I’ve seen grooms forget and panic about the following:
Forgot your written vows: It’s always good to have a copy that is digital
Cologne is missing: Carry a small travel size bottle if needed
Missing fashion accessories such as a hat
It’s important that you have a duffle bag or suitcase with all of your important needs. Do this the night before and place it where you can see it before heading out. It’s normal to rush out and forget something, and that’s why you must plan ahead. You can also set yourself reminders on your phone. Your Best Man can also remind you as well! Use your support system around you to stay on top of things. The last thing you want to do is call your soon-to-be wife about some things that could’ve been avoided. Calling the bride and worrying her is a big no-no! Don’t do that.
To Have or To Not Have a Bachelor Party
Have fun! I know there’s this thing about bachelor parties, but if you two have agreed to have fun then do so! It’s important that you talk to your spouse first about what is acceptable and what is not. I can not tell you what you should and shouldn’t be doing because every relationship is different. Only you and your spouse know what is best. Other than going out to bars and clubs partying, here are some other ways to have fun as a Groom:
Game Night: You can use your man cave
Pool Party with groomsmen/close friends
Cigar Lounge
Fishing
Bowling
Brewery
Sporting Event: Football, Basketball, Baseball, etc.
Escape Room
Casino Night Out
Concert
There are plenty of alternatives in case you are trying to come up with different ways of celebrating! Find some things that you enjoy and invite close friends or family to join you.
Limit the Booze Intake If You Can
Remember, I can’t tell you what you can or can’t do. I can only give you tips from prior experiences. I’m all about having fun, but I also want you to enjoy every moment. If you’re wasted, you may not remember some of those special moments. If that doesn’t matter to you then go right ahead. Only you know how much you can handle. Read the room and always play it smart. If your wedding day has multiple playing parts, then you want to be well aware, and sober during those times. Think about what your wedding entails. Will you be driving afterwards, will you be performing or speaking later in the night? Think about these things before getting “loose” as some would say. Have fun, but be aware. You can always get “loose” during your honeymoon, after the big day, etc. This part is up to you and only you know what is best.
Enjoy Every Moment
Last but not least, I’d like to remind you to enjoy every moment. A wedding typically lasts from around 4-5 hours. Time goes by quickly and this day is rare and special. Recently, Texas got to witness a full eclipse. If you know anything about an eclipse, it’s a rare sighting. If you miss it, you may not be able to see it again or you may have to wait years to see the next one. My point being, when I witnessed the eclipse, I took that time to focus on all of the little things. I was in nature, I was in awe of how the weather changed, and how it got dark so quickly. With my eclipse glasses, I stared and waited for the full sighting of the eclipse. I was still (little to no movement) and in awe. Have this same kind of attitude with your wedding day. You may not be able to be still throughout the entire day, but in those moments when you are having your first dance with the bride, and making speeches, etc. take it all in. The intimate and small moments matter. Don’t take the little moments for granted.
Summary
In summary, I ask have you at least taken one thing away from what I suggested? I hope so! Thank you for kicking it with me, Dazzlers. Please share this blog post to all. Even if you are not a Groom, you never know who you may come across that fits into this category. I hope to see you again for another amazing blog post! Summer is almost here, and the wedding season is in full effect. Take some time to relax and remember to keep dazzling! Until next time.
Love,
MaKayla
The Dazzling Wedding Officiant
